Hello my people, guess whose back? Its meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
I know i have been gone for a minute but it was all for a good reason. Graduation is around the corner and I can't afford to be consumed by blogger cuz u know if I make a post I would be here like clockwork to see if anyone has replied and since my mother has already told everyone and their mothers that I am graduating in May, we can't afford to mess up..Abi?
But not too worry I have been here every sunday evening checking for weekly updates from Solomonsydelle, Bumight, Afrobabe and last but not least Mr. and Mrs. Don Chari and some other blogs..So I am fairly up to date on whats been going on in Blogville. Even checked out the Blog Idols and I must say I am very impressed with the categories.
So Im sure you guys are wondering what caused me to come back to Blogville? There is FIRE on the mountain ooo and i am forced to stay and quench it instead of running for cover. Maybe I should have sent this to Solomonsydelle but let's see what happens. So back to my story, your girl is involved in a 'Love Triangle" as my best friend put it and I have no idea what to do because I feel like whatever happens, someone is gonna get hurt and that person would most likely be me. I wont necessarilu call it a love triangle but anyways here is my dilemma.
I met this guy Alex, a couple of yrs ago and at the time, I was seeing someone else so we just stayed friends and never crossed that line. It has always been obvious that we were attracted to each other and basically I just kept waiting on him to make a move but homeboy never did, he just made it known that he liked me and his reputation aint exactly perfect. A month ago, we got into an argument over the phone and I decided that it was time to late that whole relationship go instead of dragging it along any further. I was sure it was not going to end in a relationship that I wanted..So that was that.
Fast forward to two weeks later, I went to visit my best friend and her boyfriend. She had been telling me about this guy she wanted to hook me up with for a while but I never acted on it because I am not exactly a fan of the whole hooking up process. I like to meet people on my own as to avoid any unecessary complications. Anyway the first night I was there the guy came over and he seemed like a cool person. His name was Jide and we hit it off right away. He seemes to have his life in order. Found out that Jide and my bestfriend's boyfriend are best friends. That immediately put up a red flag cuz all I could think about was that if we ever got together it would be too close for comfort. Just imagine bestfriends dating bestfriends. That means our business would be their business and vice versa. That kind of put me off at first but then after a while it didn't seem like such a bad idea. So the whole time I was there we hung out and started getting to know each other better. On one of our hanging out events (lol), we ran into one of Alex's friend and come to find out that Alex and Jide know each other and have mutual friends in common. I really didn't care though because I had already made up my mind that Alex was out of the picture. Anyways before the end of my visit, i made out with Jide once. Everything should be good right? WRONG
So a couple of days later I get a phonecall from Alex letting me know that he heard about me and Jide and he doesn't approve it and blah blah blah and I really wasn't trying to hear whatever he had to say. He apologized for whatever he might have done in the past and he cares and blah blah. And he feels bad and he wants us to be serious and all I could do was tell him I was done with him. At this point I wa so mad because I felt like it had to take someone else to step in to the picture before he stepped up. I was furious. So i got home one day and guess who was sitting at my door? Alex..YeS Mr. man flew in to my state to stalk me. I thought things like that only happened in the movie theaters and not in real life but lo and behold it happened in my life. So at this point, we were forced to talk. Alex asked that I stop seeing others and he never really stepped up in the past because i usually intimidated him and he wanted to make sure that he was ready before he stepped up because he didnt want to ruin the friendship we had. Basically he wants us to be in a relationship and this is where my problem lies. I cannot even lie because I fell for it, call me a fool but yes, i fell for it. All the emotions i tried to hide came rushing out and I wont even lie, I would love to be with him. Unfortunately, Jide is also in the picture and I already kissed him. Although, Jide has never came out ans said anyhing about liking me or anything, my best friend's man told me that Jide is trying to be serious and right now he is just trying to get a feel for who I am. And my bestfriend and her man are advising me to go with Jide because that's who they are rooting for. Also found out that Alex already called Jide and told him to back-off but Jide has not told me about it so I don't know how true it is. I guess it is just complicated because all parties know each other and that is actually the biggest problem.
I feel like if I go with Alex, Jide would resent me even though I hope we can stay friends cuz he is actually a good guy and I know that i would be seeing more of him as long as my friend and her boyfriend stay together which would only complicate issues. Abd it doesn't help that my bestfriend is rooting for Jide and keeps hinting that she would be mad at me if I went with Alex and not Jide. It might also change the relationship with me nd my friend because she feels somewhat responsible since she tried to hook us up and she also doesn't like Alex cuz of our past history. I also don't know how to go abiut telling Jide that Alexn is back in the picture because I dont want him to feel like I led him on but at the same time dont wanna be too forward since Jide hasn't said what his intentions are.
So people, I need your advice and please make it good and anounce to everyone to come offer opinions cuz i need it all.
